Kol HaLev synagogue in Baltimore invites members to speak during Shabbat

For nearly two decades, Kol HaLev in Baltimore has operated with a distinct rule for its Shabbat services. Attendees are not expected to remain silent observers. Instead, they are encouraged to speak, share personal updates, and participate directly in the prayers. This approach stands in contrast to traditional synagogue services where the rabbi typically leads a monologue while the congregation listens.

Alan Silver, the executive director and treasurer, says this open format is a key draw for new members. He has spoken to several first-time visitors who described the experience as refreshing. They told him they were looking for a service that did not feel like a cookie-cutter session. Silver notes that the unpredictable nature of the service is part of its appeal.

Rabbi Emily Stern leads the typical Saturday morning service. During the morning blessings of gratitude, she prompts the congregation to repeat the prayer. She also asks attendees to articulate what they are specifically grateful for. This prompts members to share personal details. One congregant recently shared that they were nervous about upcoming surgery but grateful for the support of the community. Stern says these moments of deep sharing help the group feel like a true community.

The leadership team designed this structure to address the epidemic of loneliness. Stern serves as both a rabbi and a mashpia, a role defined as a Jewish spiritual connector. Silver explains that this background in active listening allows Stern to create an environment where people feel comfortable. He notes that the social connection is possible because of the specific atmosphere Stern cultivates, rather than just her title as a rabbi.

Stern views listening as an active experience and a privilege. She uses this practice to understand where each person is in their spiritual journey. By meeting people where they are, she aims to make Judaism relevant to their individual lives. The goal is to help each member find their own version of their religious practice. This tailored approach allows the congregation to function based on personal knowledge of members' lives.

Kol HaLev holds weekly Shabbat services on Fridays and Saturdays. Stern says the services are always different. She believes that knowing what is happening in a member's life helps the synagogue function better. Silver adds that he can tell the emotional tone of the congregation by listening to Stern's voice on the phone. He says her investment in the community is evident, and he describes the overall atmosphere as lovely.